Wasn't it delicious when your infant preferred you to anyone else on the planet? Now that your baby is bigger, though, and he falls apart when you head to the bathroom without him, his attachment seems downright obsessive.Jesse gets that way a lot in these recent weeks. Sometimes family and friends offer to carry him, he'd grab on to Mae and I, clenching his tiny little fingers on our clothes until his little knuckles turn white as he clung on for dear life. It's so heartbreaking to see.
Sometimes we want to just let him work it out on his one. On one hand, we'd like for him to learn to be a little more independent and perhaps even a little more sociable. Yet on the other hand, I'd hate for him to think we're abandoning him. Parenting books advice giving the baby a transitional object to help him cope with the separation. So far nothing's worked.
One time we left Jesse with my mom and my brother Jeff. As they took him Jesse cried huge droplets of tears that flooded his tiny little face. And as they took him farther and father away from us, he reached out his tiny hand to me, as if to say, "Save me, Daddy!" My heart broke into smithereens. Tears welled up in my eyes that day. And would continue to do so every time I picture him like that - even right now as I write this. *sigh*
I guess daddies get Separation Anxieties too.