Wednesday, August 11, 2004

A Cut Below

Having made the Birth Plan, Mae and I felt a little uncomfortable about the tone and manner of it all. It sounded a little too "I want this, I want that," for our liking. So we decided to talk to Doc first.

"I tell most patients that I can't possibly stick to everything in their Birth Plan," Doc told us. But she reassured Mae and I that she has our best interest at all times. She also told us that a lot of the stuff in a Birth Plan is best decided during labour, upon assessment. We agree.

Still one little thing needed some explanation.

Mae has been contemplating on whether or not to have an Episiotomy. Basically, the procedure is just make a little snip at the vagina to facilitate Baby's exit. A lot of our pre-natal books tell us that some women actually don't need an Episiotomy. On the other hand, if the baby is too large there's always the risk of a tear.

"It'll rip right up to your ass, you damn fools," Doc was pissed at our insolence. Somewhere, a storm was raging.

Hahhaha! Okay, that's not what happened. But she did point out the possibility of a very, very bad tear. "Caucasians are quite flexible, but for some reason Asians always tear," Doc pointed out. "Must be the squat toilets we use."

We're Asians. And we're having the Episiotomy.

31 comments:

  1. yeup, Episiotomy is recommended for most women here. it will help the healing process after birth too, good choice! :)

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  2. i once heard a woman talk abt her natural birth experience. she freaked me out with her expressions. i'm not gonna tell u wat she said.

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  3. hi, been following yr blog for a short while. its really interesting. its like wat we hv gone thru wid our 1st born about 2 years ago...
    i had episiotomy, not an issue for me for it did healed fast. the pain lasted like 2 days for me. nothing to worry about unless u got a 10 pounder baby :p
    gud luck... happy tick tocking ;)

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  4. All I can say is OUCH!!!! >< Yes, epistomy sounds good...but OUCH!

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  5. That's reassuring, pickyin. :) Thanks.
    Sometimes I secretly thank God I'm not a woman, andrea!
    Tell lah, Olivia.
    Thanks for dropping by, babe_kl. And thanks for sharing that. :)

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  6. U r right, James. Thank god, we r not women!
    It is really amazing what a woman go thru during birth process. *tabik*

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  7. Sounds like the way to go. You probably don't want to worry about tearing with everything else that is going on.

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  8. EEeeeEEeWWwWWww....
    Too Much Information....!!!!!!!!!
    *close eyes....
    Is it over yet?

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  9. good choice. Heals very well in the hands of experienced doctors with fancy sutures =)

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  10. A friend said that the actual delivery wasn't as painful as the stitching. I hope Mae knows that. ;)

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  11. I would think those squat toilets would actually help. Guess not. Ouch!

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  12. I heard the pain is so intense you won't feel the snip.
    Ick.

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  13. oh yea Flys got a point, i mean think about it, stitching is bad ennuff, but stitching THERE~!
    *winces in pain and runs for cover*

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  14. Oh my gosh....I feel faint. A tiny snip at the vagina? Even a hard turd hurts already!

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  15. Ouch is right, Mei!
    That says it all, Ryuu.
    I guess you have to see it to really appreciate it, Papi. My turn's up next. *ulp*
    Yeah Christopher. One less concern is always a good thing.
    :lol: Alvink. Our Doc even insist that I be in the delivery room, in case I was thinking otherwise. "You'll learn to love your wife better!" Clever woman!
    Fancy sutures eh, Janus? :)
    Most books tell us that the Episiotomy is the least of our concerns, Fly. We'll see...
    Jordan, guess we have much to learn about women and toilets. :lol:
    Mdmafia, I think you're right. Hopefully if won't add to the pain.
    Annu, thank God for those self-disintergrating stitches. (What do you call those anyway?)
    The G: That sure put everything in perspective! :lol:

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  16. for me to think it was a cut below on the pubes. potong stim la james.

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  17. Hmmmm.... interesting...:D....
    *scribbling down notes...
    I shall remember that james....

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  18. Good...it's not as horrific as it sounds. :-)

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  19. i think the episiotomy does not have to be decided upon rite now... it can actually be decided upon during labour. In australia i know the docs don't do it unless they have to and they usually only know whether they have to or not duing labour. it is after all not a big procedure.. literally just a snip with a pair of scissors

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  20. That is why I will not give birth.

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  21. .... thats it... im not having kids.

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  22. and if i have them.. they better be grateful lil kids

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  23. james u really wanna hear ah? don't say i didn't warn u. she was telling a few people at the same table her child birth experience. "... and they cut and cut and cut...!!!" *her face squirms, full of pain & torture*
    eeeeeEEEEEEeeeeeEEEEEEEeeeeEEEEEKKKKKK!!!

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  24. James, you've just successfully scared off many potential mommies. hehe

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  25. I know Mae's aware of the blog but is she aware that you're telling the whole world about this?
    Also, isn't it a little weird for Baby Jesse to read about this 10-15 years from now? Does he really want to know the details? Unless you're trying to get him to be as grateful as he can to his mother forever and ever, I'm guessing you've got it pinned right down.

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  26. While it hurts, I still wanna have babies. Now I need to find me a man. ~_~

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  27. Whoa Mei! On the prowl now, eh? :)

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  28. Not really...no man wan me oso. -.- I'm more on the prowl for a better job than a man. ;)

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